Some people will always need a villain in their life and that says more about how they feel about their own lives than it does about our own. Maybe, there are elements of truth in what these people say to us, but that is merely accidental. Being objective when someone is being irrational, counterproductive and damaging is one of the most difficult activities to master.
It is so easy to ridicule and demean. It is far more difficult to understand, to have patience and to have compassion for those experiencing difficulty, not to mention for ourselves. And, most of our lives are so difficult. One person’s joy becomes the focal point of another’s projected pain and suffering. We deflect how we feel about our own life, our own consequences and deliver both to others.